I'm packing a bag

Are we as we muddle through day to day simply packing a bag for a place that we are going?
If we are packing this bag of events and people and interactions simply going to have to have someone else unpack that bag and then they get to figure out what to do with it. 

do we get to take that bag with us?
Then also aren't we somewhat in charge of what we put in that bag.  We choose from the loose random articles that come before us and how we view those things.  We can choose an outfit that fits or one that doesnt' fit us; just as we can take an event that fits or not.

I was watching an older gentleman complain at the library yesterday:  He went to the Gay Library and the clerk told him that they sent the item to the other Main library.  He total went berserk and told her how he lived 5 miles from this library and 8 miles from the other library and the computer system told him it was at this one.  She replied it was at the Gay library but when he put a hold on it that it was sent to his 'main' library on his profile as a convenience.  She could change his 'main' library to the Gay library if he liked.  "I'm not yelling you, I'm yelling at the system"  She calmly said I understand and I can fix it for you but he continued to rant that he didn't want anything but for the system to ask where he wanted his item held before he 'held' it.

what kind of bag are you packing?